The Mentorist


Dial ‘M’ for Mentor

Perhaps it’s the fallout from Sheryl Sandberg’s Lean In — or the ‘I-want-it-and-I-want-it-now’ ethos created by one-click shopping.  Whatever the reason, more and more professional women seem to be on a frantic hunt, of late, for someone within their company’s hierarchy to serve as their mentor.

But here’s the thing: Designating that a particular person in your firm or company is going to become your mentor has about as much chance of succeeding as does getting married to the first person you meet on (Don’t ask how I know that.)

I’m focusing this blog post on professional women, because men are mentored all the time by senior men in their organizations — whether or not they’re willing to call it that.  They’re also ‘sponsored’ (a subject for another Mentorist post), but — in my view — ‘male mentoring’ is, at least, as important to their success. Continue reading


It’s Not What You Say, It’s the Way You Say It: Women at Work

I’ve just finished reading Lean In and am convinced Sheryl Sandberg has been spying on me from birth.

Most women who read the book will likely feel the same.  Lean In captures the ways women sabotage themselves in the workplace — and does a good job of explaining the sociological reasons why.

In my experience, conversational style — that is, how we say something — is at the root of most problems women have in getting promoted to top positions.

Let’s face it:  The corporate world is, in large part, still ruled by men.  That means most interactions that determine whether a woman will reach ‘the top’ are going to be with men.

And — plain and simple — they don’t talk like us. Continue reading