If you take just one thing away from this blog post, let it be this: Never ask someone to become your mentor.
In fact, the last time I was asked that question, I responded, “Can’t we start with lunch, instead?”
What many people don’t realize is that a mentoring relationship can’t be forced. It needs to be based on the chemistry between two people and to develop organically over time.
That’s one reason formal mentoring programs set up by companies and firms often fail. They use arbitrary criteria to pair people up and then expect ‘just-add-water’ results. It doesn’t work that way.
So, what’s the path to finding a mentor? There isn’t a clear one. But, here are some thoughts on positioning yourself so that a mentor will ‘happen’ to you: Continue reading